UPSTREAM: 61378: --force only takes effect when --grace-period=0

[juanvallejo]

Addresses https://bugzilla.redhat.com/show_bug.cgi?id=1562961#c12
Picks kubernetes/kubernetes#61378 into release-3.9
Backports #19213

Tested with https://bugzilla.redhat.com/show_bug.cgi?id=1562961#c11

cc @soltysh

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Closed. Re-opened against ose